Heroes – we’ve all had one. I grew up in a big family and when I was little, the people I looked up to were practically all of my older cousins. In my eyes they were everything I ever wished to become. Funny, confident, poised. They wore the coolest fashion and the glimpse they showed us of their adolescent lives seemed exciting and fun to me. And when it comes to heroes or heroines, my mother of course takes the cake. No words can describe how massive my admiration is for the woman who brought up three little
girls women on her own. Almost effortlessly, like a superwoman. I imagined how adventurous my adolescent life would one day be (and did a tremendous lot of day-dreaming about it, mostly in class) and couldn’t wait to one day be a part of the grown ups’ table.
Fast forward to me, at thirty-one. I look back at the charm of my youthful naiveté. As if we have it all figured out as adults now. With age comes the dawning realization that we don’t have heroes to look up to anymore. Not that there’s a lack of inspiring people out there. I admire the relentless force that Lin-Manuel Miranda exudes. I remember following him in the earlier stages of his career (In the Heights, anyone?) and to see where his perseverance and individuality has brought him today – that I find inspiring. Or people like Sofia Coppola, paving a road for young aspiring female filmmakers, and Beyoncé, whose powerful message speak to a legion of women all around the world. But at age thirty-one, the hero or heroine on my mind is my own, or rather the heroine I want to become. Who do I want to be in this lifetime? And what will or should define me as a person?
Girls, who run the world?
A quick guide to becoming a heroine
1. Set a goal
Saving the world is, of course, your main priority. But while you’re fighting off power-hungry villains by night, your career as a fashion editor or finance consultant is keeping you busy by day (multitasking – only a woman can do it). Whatever you do, a heroine never loses track of her passion. Set your life goals and do not wander off track.
2. Choose your weapons
Wonder Woman may have her Bracelets of Victory, you have your own armor. Gold-plated earrings dangle from your ears and large statement pieces adorn your fingers. On your eyes you have Monsieur Big (bat your lashes for total seduction) and your lips are painted in a fierce and fiery red. (blow kisses for total destruction).
3. Follow your heart
It’s a man’s world and as women we’re told to abide by the rules set by men. No hearts, no emotions. I say to hell with this. No man was ever created without a woman. Be true to yourself and don’t be afraid to listen to that instinct that will guide you further in life than any force ever can. Your heart is your power.